I seriously cannot stand the us-and-them mindset that some members of minority groups have. While there’s room for delineating different members of a certain group, it’s really unproductive to make those differences a cause for animosity BETWEEN those people. I’ve seen it among quite a few groups, actually: plural groups have gone ‘we’re not like those plurals, so we’re OK!’; ethnic minorities have gone ‘we’re not like those $ETHNICITY people, so we’re OK and can be accepted by mainstream society!’ LGBT people have done it too: ‘At least I’m not one of those weird trannies.’ ‘At least I’m not like those flamboyant gays in the Castro.’
You are not any ‘better’ than other members of your group simply because your system structure is one way, or because the colour of your skin is lighter than someone else’s, or because you use the standard dialect of the language as opposed to a regional or ethnic one, or because you’re more or less ‘flamboyant’ than other gay men. All it does is feed the mentality that everyone is ‘angry’ and ‘fractious’, and doesn’t help when we’re trying to be seen as equal in society. (I’m mainly talking about Western society, as I’m an English member of an American system who has only ever lived in Western countries. I don’t want to presume anything about non-Western societies, as that’s a bit out of my depth.) You may find ‘ghetto’ culture obnoxious (I often do), but that doesn’t make yourself better than its adherents, and it doesn’t make stereotypical ‘ghetto’ people less worthy of civility and equal rights. The same applies to flamboyant gays, or plural systems that don’t fit into the ‘plural community paradigm’, or anyone else who is marginalised within their own minority groups.
I’ve written about this before, mostly about the way some members of the plural community act. Seriously, there is nothing wrong with being a trauma-split, median or non-trauma-based ‘proper’ multiple system; why attack others for it, and set yourselves up as ‘the right form of plural’, depending on what part of the plural subculture you belong to? Just…whatever, seriously.